Love: Overrated and Overhyped?

​Love is blind, says Shakespeare-but it’s love that makes the world go round. Love has a curious effect. It makes cowards of some, poets of a few and a fool of others. Yet most of the great achievements in the world can be attributed to the inspiration of love.

In the blink of an eye, everything can change. You meet a person and do not know whether they are going to be your soulmate or are you going to regret ever getting involved with them years later. 

In todays world, we often find us questioning ourselves: is love overrated and overhyped? Does true love exist?

Well… that’s completely upto you what you wanna believe. 

To be honest, it’s not hard to find someone who tells you that he/she loves you, rather, it’s hard to find someone who actually means it. Physical attractions are common, but a real emotional connection is very rare to find. 

People say that love often hurts. True enough, there’s nothing like a free meal. Sadness, disappointment, expectations, resentment, anger: it’s all a part and parcel of love. But love is still the most beautiful feeling in this world.

One of my friends asked me if I’ve got hurt in relationships. Of course, I have. And it’s not always someone else’s fault that I get hurt. In fact, it’s my own fault most of the time. It’s expectations. You always expect people to be the way you think they should be and when they’re not, you get upset. But people are what they are. Either you accept it, or if you don’t like it, don’t deal with it…you open your heart knowing that there’s a chance that it may be broken one day. But the couples that are meant to be, are the ones who go through everything that is fierce enough to tear them apart, and come out even stronger.

My view:

We can never choose to be in love. But when we are suitable, love chooses us.

Be with someone who takes care of you, not materialistically, but emotionally. 

The best love is the one that makes you a better person, without changing you into someone you’re not.

That’s all, folks!

Gonna be back soon.

Meet new people on your way…everyone has a story to tell

​Life is a lot like a movie. You would wonder, how? Well, just like in a movie, we meet different people in our lives day to day whose roles are yet to unfold. New people keep coming up in our lives just like the characters in a movie: friends, teachers, philosophers, lovers, villains and so on and so forth.

Some of us find meeting new people fun, while some people find it draining.

Why is it so? That’s because each and every one of us is wired in a different way. While we may enjoy meeting some people, but at the same time, mingling with a handful of people won’t exactly be as appealing. 

Often many of us come up with this misconception that extroverts get recharged with people, while introverts do so by being in their own head. No, certainly not. While introverts might not really be comfortable mingling with new people, but with certain people, they can just be themselves.

To be honest, I’m not much of an extrovert. To most of the people, I come across as someone reserved, unapproachable, adamant and the list goes on. But to my best-‘est’ of friends, I’m someone who literally doesn’t shut up. 

So, all in all, it’s all about being in your own comfort zone. 

Changing three schools and finally getting into college has given me the opportunity to meet a huge number of people. Not to forget the huge number of people we interact with on social media.

Meeting each and every one of them has been an experience in itself. While some of them have helped me form a positive outlook on my life, some have tried to miserably hold me back. Overall, this has been an enlightening experience…it not only helped me have better judgement on people, but also helped me judge myself better. And this definitely made me a better person now than who I was a few years back.

At the end of this post, I’ll just say this.

There’s nothing more exciting than meeting new people and hearing their stories. Each and every one inspires us some way. While some people will influence you in a good way, some  will pull you down the gutter. But it’s worthwhile to remember one thing. No one fails alone; no one succeeds alone either. 

My advice:

Avoid negative sources. Consider things from every angle. Family and friends are hidden treasures; seek them and enjoy their riches. Ignore those who try to discourage you. Love yourself first and most.

That’s all, folks.

xoxo

Love you, Zindagi!😘

​My life started in a sub-urban town in Orissa where my father, a mechanical engineer by profession, was posted in. It was a place with a vastly different culture from that of my state. Different food habits, different language, different surroundings…these things shaped up my formative years in such a way that for many years after we moved away from there, people had a hard time accepting that I belong to a purely Bengali family.

A dollop of mud takes the shape you mould it into. A child’s mind is similar….raised by an engineer and a teacher, I learned at a very young age that on one hand, you need to set your dreams higher, on the other hand, you do need a sense of practicality. I grew up believing that even though you should dream bigger, your dreams should be attainable. There’s no point making castles in air. And that’s where, your sense of practicality comes into play.

Life is not a bed of roses. And those who are under that impression are disillusioned soon. Life is full of ups and downs. But One needs to have the courage to face difficulties head on and not run away from them. I too have had my share of mistakes, wrong decisions and regrets, but to be honest, these are the things that made me who I am today, perhaps stronger than ever.

As life goes on, things get more complicated. We become adults. And being adults, we finally have to face reality. As a child, I always dreamt of being a doctor someday. But as I reached my high school, this hope began to dwindle. To become a doctor, one needs to be prepared for at least 7-10 years of hard work. The joint entrance examination for medical studies was already giving me chills. But now that I’m studying MBBS in a reputed medical institution, I realize that there are really no shortcuts.
Without much ado, I’ll just let you guys know what I learned from my own experiences.
1. Life is similar to a boxing game. Defeat is not declared when you fall down; it is declared when you refuse to ‘get up’

2. Always the wrong people teach us the RIGHT lessons in life.

3. Faith is taking the 1st step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.

4. Life differs in each perspective. Live the way you want to.

5. Attitude at its best: My back is not a voicemail, kindly say on my face.

6. Ego is the only requirement to ruin any relationship. Skip the ‘E’ and let it ‘go’

7. God didn’t give us the gift to read others’ minds so that we could have the chance to trust and privilege to be trusted.

8. Our hopes should be like hair and nails. No matter how many times you cut them, they never stop growing.

9. Everything happens for a reason.

10. Life is what YOU make it.

So, live a life on your own terms. That’s all, folks.
Love. Live. Laugh.

xoxo

For the love of writing….

I’ve toyed with this idea of writing time and again but never really came round to doing it. But suddenly, on the eve of new year, I decided that I’ll do it this time for sure.  Let’s say…this was my top priority new year resolution for 2017.

Writing is something I enjoy a lot. It is something that I have developed a liking for over years. Apart from writing, I’m a music n dance fanatic. But in today’s busy life of a medico, they took a backseat.

This  blog is nothing but an outlet to my imagination. It’s the representation of the stories I often spin in my mind in states of sleeplessness…(or boring lectures, may be). Some of them would be written from personal experience; some a part of fiction.

 I’m definitely not an experienced writer. But this Is my attempt to give wings to my literary aspirations. This is my attempt to give colors to my creative expressions.

Really hope that you’ll enjoy reading my further posts. Please do comment and share your views. Thank you.

Ciao guys soon!